Appreciation...the New Resolution
Every year, as a society we make New Year's resolutions, I know I have. For me most new years began like this...This year I resolve to lose 10, 15 pounds. Or I'm going to achieve this goal at work, say “no” more, have more quiet time, etc. Inevitably, they usually aren't very successful. I never stopped to think about why I did that. It's just what you do at the beginning of the year, right? As I get older (or mature, that sounds better) I've started thinking more about the why and now just doing it. To start, I considered what the word resolution really means. A quick google search and I found that resolution is “a firm decision to do or not do something,” it's as simple as that! So I get it, new year=fresh start. However, I'd like to challenge this notion by saying although things aren't perfect (and never will be) maybe it's a better idea to start off the new year, new months, new days First with appreciation! Appreciation:recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something. From that we are in a better place to create Lasting resolutions!
Here are some practical steps to put all of this into perspective:
Before you get out of the bed consider : what do I appreciate in my life?
Don't take too long to consider #1. Instead what are the first five things that come to mind. It doesn't have to be big things. Some examples can be family, spouse, friends, a job, a roof over your head, food to eat, safety, love, the last laugh I had, etc.
Say out loud those things you appreciate one by one and smile after each one. Pausing helps your words, heart, and mind sync and stay “in the moment.”
Throughout the day, take the time to display that appreciation. i.e., if it's a friend tell them what they mean to you and thank them. If it's being able to work, go to work and give it your all. If it's safety thank God you slept without harm when others were not as fortunate.
Consider the good things about You. Yes, you are valuable. What things are able to be accomplished (daily, weekly, monthly) because of little ‘ol you?
Now from this appreciation of others and yourself, you can consider what things you want to change for the better. Not from a place of weakness, self-loathing, or guilt but strength. For example, I do well at my job and I'm an asset but I realize my time management skills may hold me back. So, I'll work on that because I know it will help me progress and do even better Vs. I'm not good with time so that affects everything else and I probably don't have much to offer.
Bottom line: Make a resolution to appreciate what you have, the people and things in life that make it worthwhile, and from that you can really start to make lasting changes. Happy New Year!!